Being a 'good girl' is making you sick

Do you automatically say "yes" to everything, even when you're already exhausted? Do you feel trapped in a cycle of overgiving and relentless perfectionism, all while battling relentless illness, anxiety, or confusing symptoms that you're struggling to resolve? You're not imagining it, and you're not alone. For generations, women have been conditioned to be helpful, agreeable, always available and quiet, often at a devastating cost to our own health.

This is more than a book about understanding why you're exhausted and suffering physically. It's a blueprint for dismantling the lifelong 'good girl' conditioning that fuels illness, and reclaiming the health your body has been fighting for.

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You're not broken, your body's just had enough

It's communicating with you, like a smoke alarm detecting a fire, only the fuel for that fire has been a lifetime of suppressing your own needs to keep the peace. ENOUGH is structured in three core sections that guide you through understanding, unravelling, and finally unlearning the patterns that have kept you trapped in a cycle of symptoms. 

The invitation

Understand why we put everyone else first, push ourselves too far and self-abandon to keep the peace. Explore the true cost of people-pleasing and perfectionism, the science of the mind-body connection and the family dynamics that teach us to silence ourselves and how that relates to the manifestation of chronic illness.

The medicine

Learn how to rewire ingrained survival patterns with simple yet profound tools that leverage neuroplasticity. Embrace the truth of female biology and experience the transformational effects of unsuppressing emotions as a radical act of self-discovery, empowerment and a reprogramming of worn-out systems.

The integration

A practical map back home to yourself filled with tangible, actionable tools, including self-inquiry guides and prompts and a prescription for healing maladaptive behavioural patterns that no longer serve you. Learn how to self-soothe, build internal safety and create a sustainable path to an aligned and authentic life beyond survival mode.

What you will discover inside

Drawing from my own recovery from chronic pain and my experience coaching others, this book is both a memoir and a practical guide to healing. It is a deep dive into the patterns of dysfunction that lead to 'dis-ease', offering a clear and supported prescription for change. Inside, you will discover how to:

  • Understand the mind-body connection and why your physical symptoms can be a logical response to unexpressed emotions, chronic stress and trauma.
  • Uncover the roots of 'good girl conditioning' and how societal pressures have shaped your nervous system from childhood.
  • Connect the dots between people-pleasing, perfectionism, and your physical health, from hormonal chaos and inflammation to autoimmune conditions.
  • Learn practical tools to regulate your nervous system, moving you out of a constant state of survival and into a place of safety and healing.
  • Discover how to set boundaries, dissolve guilt and finally give yourself permission to put your own needs first.
  • Reclaim your authentic self by giving a voice to the parts of you that have been silenced.
Dani Fagan

The guide

Dani Fagan is a trauma-informed mind-body healing coach specialising in the care of the chronic illness and mind-body medicine community, having healed from years of chronic pain and anxiety using simple holistic tools that do not break the bank. Her approach to mind-body healing harnesses the power of agency and authenticity using the nervous system to help folks recover from chronic conditions by training the body and mind into a place of safety, out of survival mode. This book and the rest of the content found on this website and related social media accounts are for absolutely anyone, but particularly beneficial to women suffering from persistent symptoms, pain, lack of self-esteem, with people-pleasing and perfectionistic tendencies, anxiety, trauma, neurodivergence or any form of emotional or physical distress.

Your journey home begins here

You've given, tried, and carried enough. The wait to put yourself first is over.

ENOUGH is a compassionate companion for the woman who is ready to stop pretending and performing and start living. Your permission slip to rest, to heal, and to reclaim the vibrant, authentic life that is your birthright. 

Pre-order today and receive exclusive bonuses designed to accelerate your healing, including a 14-day self-compassion journey to help you reconnect with the part of you that has been hidden and hurting, because we cannot heal a body we are at war with.

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What early readers are saying

I shared the manuscript with a few people, and those who are referenced in the book. Here's what they had to say.

Amazing

I just finished the first chapter. This book is amazing! I’m learning so much and appreciating all the connections you’re making. There’s something so powerful in seeing chronic fawning as repression of our own emotions. It’s why so many of us can’t keep people pleasing, particularly ongoing and unconsciously.

Justine

Truly eye-opening (as a man)

I was completely unaware of so many of the female health matters that Dani Fagan illuminates in 'Enough'. As a man, this book was a truly eye-opening and informative read, delivered in a way that is incredibly accessible. It tackles heavy topics with a light touch and Dani's willingness to share her own story gives this book its heart, and despite the weight of the topics, it's a surprisingly easy-going read that draws you in from the first page making it a must-read for any woman suffering with frustrating physical ailments, but honestly also for men who want to better understand the women in their lives. 

Stephen

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